After you have a stroke, you find yourself saying “Goodbye”…… A LOT. Goodbye to feeling independent. Goodbye to feeling comfortable alone. Goodbye to family & friends just “being” with you, instead of asking “Are you alright?” every time you have an ache or pain. Goodbye to feeling in control of your life! I deal with all of this, and a few thousand more “Goodbye’s”.
For the stroke survivor, the “Goodbye’s” can tear your heart out! Losing a job. Friends distancing themselves from you. Hobbies that can’t be done anymore. Dreams that you now know you will never accomplish. So many Goodbye’s!
But, after a stroke, you do slowly start to have some “Hello’s”. They don’t seem to come as fast or as often as you want, but they do come. The problem is that sometimes you are saying “Hello!” to a slightly different “friend”.
Your “Hello’s” now may need to include assistive devices, such as a cane, and AFO, walker, wheelchair, etc…
But we need to realize that it is a “Hello”! And that means one less “Goodbye”.
Four years before my stroke, I almost lost my eyesight. Doctor’s have no idea (big surprise) what caused the lenses in both my eyes to suddenly detach 2 years apart. I spent 3.5 years & countless amounts of money & time traveling to/from AZ to CA for 3 separate surgeries, all the while not knowing if my vision would ever allow me to read, see my kids & husband, or drive, again.
The surgeries were a success. It left me saying “Goodbye” to my lighter than air glasses, and “Hello” to what I laughingly call my “Mr. Magoo” glasses. But I can see my kids & husband, I can read, and I could drive!
Fast forward to March 2012. That was the day of “1000 Goodbyes!” And once again, I found myself saying “Goodbye” to driving.
Well, starting Oct 9th, I am hoping to start the wheels turning (I know, “Groan!) to me being able to say “Hello” to driving again.
I am going to talk to the doctor about signing me up for the assistive driving evaluation. This will allow me to move forward to having a vehicle fitted for hand controls so I can drive again!
After a stroke, there are MANY “Goodbye’s”, but we have to remember to celebrate the occasional “Hello’s”!